The Gap: Part 4 – Summer – return to school 2020

So, the pandemic had taken the wind out of my sails in terms of education provision for Caitlin. And thrown a spanner into the works in finding appropriate provision for Logan... But I had stepped up, I was more than capable for the task just a little ragged. Just as schools were readying to reopen … Continue reading The Gap: Part 4 – Summer – return to school 2020 →

The Gap… Part 2: Winter ’19-Spring 20

Out hardest part of the year is always the last couple of months as birthdays (which trigger the children), Halloween (which scares Caitlin as she still has that young belief that things are real - and the props and decoration could burst into life and get her), fireworks (sensory nightmare) and Advent/Christmas (mega trauma trigger) … Continue reading The Gap… Part 2: Winter ’19-Spring 20 →

The Gap: Part 3 – PANDEMIC – no one panic!

So after the burnout of the education and lack of support crisis, which lead to home education and lack respite, the fight for an appropriate school provision (which had only just been won for Caitlin, but Logan's journey was still outstanding), and a safeguarding enquiry... We roll straight into a global pandemic! Wow! What can … Continue reading The Gap: Part 3 – PANDEMIC – no one panic! →

The Gap… Part 1: Summer-Autumn 19

So I'm back... A couple of posts over the coming days will explain my absence, some changes will be made to our blog and much news and updating necessary! Here we begin... With all the issues surrounding the children's needs (lack of sleep, high maintenance behaviour issues, needing constant 24 hour supervision, the fact there's … Continue reading The Gap… Part 1: Summer-Autumn 19 →

Christmas and New Year 2018

A Christmas decision Logan and Caitlin were very insistent that we have Christmas at home, which in some ways is great - it's so expensive to go away and not be able to join in with anything for Christmas, due to the sheer volume of other people being about. However, being at home for Christmas … Continue reading Christmas and New Year 2018 →

Review: Sea Legs Puppet Theatre

We are a bit late reviewing this as, well.... Winter in this house is just so difficult... but it's important to me that we do this. So here it is, better late than never hey? The children were absolutely desperate to have a birthday party, but it just wasn't feasible; they are coping better with … Continue reading Review: Sea Legs Puppet Theatre →

The light never goes out…

... you know the one at the end of the tunnel. It's still there, it's just that the length of the pathway, the obstacles in my way and the stability of the road aren't clear. And at the moment it feels very unstable and full of obstacles. Relentlessly so. I'm quite literally treading water with … Continue reading The light never goes out… →

A new page… and our summer so far

So, many reviews have been going up - I have been concentrating on getting those up to date - so it's clear we are up and about, though still not back at full energy capacity. However, whilst the summer holidays are in full swing, we are making use of friends and family being out and … Continue reading A new page… and our summer so far →

Adoption: why does it create burnout?

As per my previous post (Burnout) my body is so burnt out that a cold turned into a chest infection. 2 weeks later I'm still getting over it and knowing my body well and how it feels I can see I'm going to be battling chronic fatigue now. This is the result of secondary trauma, … Continue reading Adoption: why does it create burnout? →

Burnout

So as you could potentially fathom from my last post followed by my subsequent silence, I'm quite burnt out right now. This is what happens when you are primary carer to one, or more (our case obviously two), highly traumatised children. When there is no relief, when they cannot be in school and cannot cope … Continue reading Burnout →