No one will quite understand this unless the are a SEND or LAC/post-LAC parent... but I've been a bit pong-y today. I'm now fresh out of an uninterrupted 10 minute shower, where I not only got to shave what could only be described as "manly" pits, but I also washed my hair, quite literally 3 … Continue reading Enjoying some self care
On 3 hours sleep, I have had a tough day. I have deadlines to meet by tomorrow, that look like a lack of sleep again. However, rather than mark the day with a list of negatives, I am choosing to post my favourite moment of today to leave that as the history I record: Today … Continue reading Strained positvity…
I took some time for self care last night…
By that of course I mean, I put clean bedding on my bed and took a shower. You may think that these two things are simple enough to do, but actually (and this is going to sound really disgusting - but when you are in a high trauma time, you just don't have time/energy for … Continue reading I took some time for self care last night…
In the background
I am doing things in the background, I really am - there are several posts (well perhaps several hundred would be a more apt description). I don't hide that the last few months of the year are always a strain in this household, but this year has brought its own unique challenges. We are coming … Continue reading In the background
“When are you sending them back to school?”
"You're getting more settled into a permanent home, the kids are more confident than they have ever been, they are actually learning now and thriving in the life you have given them... when are you sending them back to school?" "How are they gonna do their SATs?" "Well, what are you going to do at … Continue reading “When are you sending them back to school?”
Adoption: why does it create burnout?
As per my previous post (Burnout) my body is so burnt out that a cold turned into a chest infection. 2 weeks later I'm still getting over it and knowing my body well and how it feels I can see I'm going to be battling chronic fatigue now. This is the result of secondary trauma, … Continue reading Adoption: why does it create burnout?
I don’t want to mum today.
Almost a week of this stupid bug, kids with anxiety so high that even just trying to get to breakfast is an exhausting battle, and having to get through the trauma of the nights (nightmares really high again for one child, crying/defending self in sleep, the other just flat out refusing sleep or help). … Continue reading I don’t want to mum today.
Please stop using your children as weapons.
I have been biting my tongue on this subject for freaking ages. But you know what, in the last month alone 4 people close to me have been in the middle of these type of scenarios and frankly it's frustrating the absolute hell out of me. Whether you decide to have a child with someone, … Continue reading Please stop using your children as weapons.
Society, get your act together
So... my son has long hair and he's forever being called a girl. Not in a bullying kind of way. More in a completely ignorant kind of way; people see the long hair and assume he's my daughter. There have been times when he's had "girly" hairstyles (please tell me why it's so unacceptable for … Continue reading Society, get your act together
Aching muscles, processing pain.
It's hard for Caitlin to understand pain. Well, her and Logan both in all honesty, but her more so. When she first came to live with us I remember her being jabbed with 2 needles and not even knowing if it had happened. She genuinely asked me if they had done it yet. Or when … Continue reading Aching muscles, processing pain.