After watching friends be torn to shreds by other so-called friends…
Suffering and endurance are relative experiences. Relative to what you have been through, and faced in the past. Relative to the things that accumulate in your current circumstances. Relative to the support network, chance of recuperation and positive inputs in your life. And relative to the likelihood of you overcoming the obstacles on your path.
Don’t assume that you know how a person feels about a scenario that seems trivial to you. The person may be moaning about the thing that is actually the straw breaking the camel’s back in a bigger picture that is obscured to you.
Support one another. Stop and think about what you are going to say and whether it’s fair. And definitely don’t invalidate someone’s suffering.