So I'm back... A couple of posts over the coming days will explain my absence, some changes will be made to our blog and much news and updating necessary! Here we begin... With all the issues surrounding the children's needs (lack of sleep, high maintenance behaviour issues, needing constant 24 hour supervision, the fact there's … Continue reading The Gap… Part 1: Summer-Autumn 19
Tag: compassion fatigue
Enjoying some self care
No one will quite understand this unless the are a SEND or LAC/post-LAC parent... but I've been a bit pong-y today. I'm now fresh out of an uninterrupted 10 minute shower, where I not only got to shave what could only be described as "manly" pits, but I also washed my hair, quite literally 3 … Continue reading Enjoying some self care
Review: Wye Cottage – Penrheol Self Catering Barn Conversions
I booked to go here with another mum friend for a quiet weekend escape to celebrate a birthday (see here). We wanted a quiet place to relax, preferably without children, not too far from home with the luxury of an on site or nearby spa or a private hot tub. From the descriptions we could … Continue reading Review: Wye Cottage – Penrheol Self Catering Barn Conversions
Up and about
Well, despite low levels of energy, Nanny and Grandad have been up with Max (my brother, whose been mentioned before - he's 10 months older than Logan). They have stayed for the week, which has both helped and hindered the recovery (mental health is up some, but physical exhaustion is down low, the heat is … Continue reading Up and about
Getting better: it’s hard.
When you are ill or suffering from post illness chronic fatigue, it is vital that you rest. But it's really hard because somethings in life don't just stop when you are ill. You still have to get on with things, and when you are primary carer to 2 complex children the days are very much … Continue reading Getting better: it’s hard.
Adoption: why does it create burnout?
As per my previous post (Burnout) my body is so burnt out that a cold turned into a chest infection. 2 weeks later I'm still getting over it and knowing my body well and how it feels I can see I'm going to be battling chronic fatigue now. This is the result of secondary trauma, … Continue reading Adoption: why does it create burnout?
Burnout
So as you could potentially fathom from my last post followed by my subsequent silence, I'm quite burnt out right now. This is what happens when you are primary carer to one, or more (our case obviously two), highly traumatised children. When there is no relief, when they cannot be in school and cannot cope … Continue reading Burnout
Being “just a mum”: pitfalls of friendships
I find myself, quite often, in this situation where I am "just a mum". As you have likely already read, I home educate and am a carer to my adopted children. They rely on me 24/7, and in the past 3 years I have perhaps had around 20 breaks. I don't mean holidays (although considering … Continue reading Being “just a mum”: pitfalls of friendships
A Pleasant Chaos 