Out hardest part of the year is always the last couple of months as birthdays (which trigger the children), Halloween (which scares Caitlin as she still has that young belief that things are real - and the props and decoration could burst into life and get her), fireworks (sensory nightmare) and Advent/Christmas (mega trauma trigger) … Continue reading The Gap… Part 2: Winter ’19-Spring 20
So after the burnout of the education and lack of support crisis, which lead to home education and lack respite, the fight for an appropriate school provision (which had only just been won for Caitlin, but Logan's journey was still outstanding), and a safeguarding enquiry... We roll straight into a global pandemic! Wow! What can … Continue reading The Gap: Part 3 – PANDEMIC – no one panic!
So I'm back... A couple of posts over the coming days will explain my absence, some changes will be made to our blog and much news and updating necessary! Here we begin... With all the issues surrounding the children's needs (lack of sleep, high maintenance behaviour issues, needing constant 24 hour supervision, the fact there's … Continue reading The Gap… Part 1: Summer-Autumn 19
No one will quite understand this unless the are a SEND or LAC/post-LAC parent... but I've been a bit pong-y today. I'm now fresh out of an uninterrupted 10 minute shower, where I not only got to shave what could only be described as "manly" pits, but I also washed my hair, quite literally 3 … Continue reading Enjoying some self care
Well, despite low levels of energy, Nanny and Grandad have been up with Max (my brother, whose been mentioned before - he's 10 months older than Logan). They have stayed for the week, which has both helped and hindered the recovery (mental health is up some, but physical exhaustion is down low, the heat is … Continue reading Up and about
When you are ill or suffering from post illness chronic fatigue, it is vital that you rest. But it's really hard because somethings in life don't just stop when you are ill. You still have to get on with things, and when you are primary carer to 2 complex children the days are very much … Continue reading Getting better: it’s hard.
As per my previous post (Burnout) my body is so burnt out that a cold turned into a chest infection. 2 weeks later I'm still getting over it and knowing my body well and how it feels I can see I'm going to be battling chronic fatigue now. This is the result of secondary trauma, … Continue reading Adoption: why does it create burnout?
So as you could potentially fathom from my last post followed by my subsequent silence, I'm quite burnt out right now. This is what happens when you are primary carer to one, or more (our case obviously two), highly traumatised children. When there is no relief, when they cannot be in school and cannot cope … Continue reading Burnout