Out hardest part of the year is always the last couple of months as birthdays (which trigger the children), Halloween (which scares Caitlin as she still has that young belief that things are real - and the props and decoration could burst into life and get her), fireworks (sensory nightmare) and Advent/Christmas (mega trauma trigger) … Continue reading The Gap… Part 2: Winter ’19-Spring 20
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The Gap: Part 3 – PANDEMIC – no one panic!
So after the burnout of the education and lack of support crisis, which lead to home education and lack respite, the fight for an appropriate school provision (which had only just been won for Caitlin, but Logan's journey was still outstanding), and a safeguarding enquiry... We roll straight into a global pandemic! Wow! What can … Continue reading The Gap: Part 3 – PANDEMIC – no one panic!
Enjoying some self care
No one will quite understand this unless the are a SEND or LAC/post-LAC parent... but I've been a bit pong-y today. I'm now fresh out of an uninterrupted 10 minute shower, where I not only got to shave what could only be described as "manly" pits, but I also washed my hair, quite literally 3 … Continue reading Enjoying some self care
Review: Birmingham Museum and Art Gallery (and Dippy the Dinosaur)
Knowing that Dippy the Dinosaur (the diplodocus skeleton normally resident in London's Natural History Museum) is on tour around the UK (currently at Birmingham), how much my children love dinosaurs and how easy Birmingham is by train I decided that this was a must this summer... so a day trip was planned with my little … Continue reading Review: Birmingham Museum and Art Gallery (and Dippy the Dinosaur)
Getting better: it’s hard.
When you are ill or suffering from post illness chronic fatigue, it is vital that you rest. But it's really hard because somethings in life don't just stop when you are ill. You still have to get on with things, and when you are primary carer to 2 complex children the days are very much … Continue reading Getting better: it’s hard.
Adoption: why does it create burnout?
As per my previous post (Burnout) my body is so burnt out that a cold turned into a chest infection. 2 weeks later I'm still getting over it and knowing my body well and how it feels I can see I'm going to be battling chronic fatigue now. This is the result of secondary trauma, … Continue reading Adoption: why does it create burnout?
Burnout
So as you could potentially fathom from my last post followed by my subsequent silence, I'm quite burnt out right now. This is what happens when you are primary carer to one, or more (our case obviously two), highly traumatised children. When there is no relief, when they cannot be in school and cannot cope … Continue reading Burnout
I don’t want to mum today.
Almost a week of this stupid bug, kids with anxiety so high that even just trying to get to breakfast is an exhausting battle, and having to get through the trauma of the nights (nightmares really high again for one child, crying/defending self in sleep, the other just flat out refusing sleep or help). … Continue reading I don’t want to mum today.
30 Days Wild – Day 23
Well, it was a bit hard to take in nature and wildlife yesterday, as we spent a large majority of our day on motorways and major A roads. Caitlin has jumped from being just under 17kg to 18.7kg in amongst this house move drama. This means that she's too heavy for her car seat harness, … Continue reading 30 Days Wild – Day 23
30 Days Wild – Day 21
"Our birds". It's kind of strange, having only owned our new house for only 2 months, actually 2 nights away means we really appreciated the sound of being woken by "our birds". I don't mean, we have birds as pets... we don't. I mean the birds that visit our back garden (we really should make … Continue reading 30 Days Wild – Day 21
A Pleasant Chaos 