I have been biting my tongue on this subject for freaking ages. But you know what, in the last month alone 4 people close to me have been in the middle of these type of scenarios and frankly it's frustrating the absolute hell out of me. Whether you decide to have a child with someone, … Continue reading Please stop using your children as weapons.
I find myself, quite often, in this situation where I am "just a mum". As you have likely already read, I home educate and am a carer to my adopted children. They rely on me 24/7, and in the past 3 years I have perhaps had around 20 breaks. I don't mean holidays (although considering … Continue reading Being “just a mum”: pitfalls of friendships
So I know it's been obvious I have been trying to get on top of things both at home and on the blog, and I kind of feel like I have been achieving that. But I thought a little overview of what is going on would be great. Well, after months of having way too … Continue reading A little update
Due to Caitlin's aches and pains today, we have just been at home. We did manage to finish the painting of the playhouse porch (we laid a new floor on it). And managed to sort the toys to go in the playhouse. So the kids now have a play area outside, that is fully operational! … Continue reading 30 Days Wild – Day 11
It's hard for Caitlin to understand pain. Well, her and Logan both in all honesty, but her more so. When she first came to live with us I remember her being jabbed with 2 needles and not even knowing if it had happened. She genuinely asked me if they had done it yet. Or when … Continue reading Aching muscles, processing pain.
We get very excited about babies. Very. And news came to us, just before we were moving house, that a new baby was coming. Well, the news came the day we exchanged contracts in fact. So it was a memorable day for sure. Anyhow, we like to make stuff, so the kids set to work … Continue reading A new baby – not ours
Well. 2 years of fighting. Lots of energy wasted on professionals sending us around in loops. Lots of damage added by not having the correct support in place and we finally got funding approved. Intervention offered: Intensive family therapy. It was approved at the end of February, we had the whole course of therapy approved … Continue reading Adoption Support Fund and Therapy
This phrase has a slightly different meaning to me than it did before. Before it had obvious roots in alcohol and late nights. But nowadays, here, it has to refer to the post-change-in-routine behaviours that are so abundant the day after. Unlike the change in routine that occurs around going on holiday, the Bank Holiday … Continue reading The Bank Holiday Hangover
Another night of no sleep with a child refusing to, in order to manipulate and control. A fear response. They aren't in control, they are not safe, an adult cannot provide safety. So manipulate adults in to getting what you want (note, the want and not need there). What they need is sleep... not this … Continue reading Raw, unfiltered, unedited: Sleep deprivation and manipulation.
NB, This was also written before my laptop broke so posting retrospectively Breakthroughs, transitions, ups and downs... busy chaos. Pleasant and shifting. Time consuming and exhausting. But sometimes, glimmers of the things that could be closer to the "normal" we dream of, and hope for. Our life goes like this at times, we just have … Continue reading Can I not just divide myself into several persons?
A Pleasant Chaos 