Another night of no sleep with a child refusing to, in order to manipulate and control. A fear response. They aren't in control, they are not safe, an adult cannot provide safety. So manipulate adults in to getting what you want (note, the want and not need there). What they need is sleep... not this … Continue reading Raw, unfiltered, unedited: Sleep deprivation and manipulation.
So. Caitlin was given a wheelchair just before Christmas, which was a massive relief because, frankly, I just can't keep lugging her around in a toddler carrier - she's not heavy as such, but she's getting long and so it is very awkward. And, in all honesty, it's kinda sad for her, she's very independent … Continue reading Labels and things
NB, This was also written before my laptop broke so posting retrospectively Breakthroughs, transitions, ups and downs... busy chaos. Pleasant and shifting. Time consuming and exhausting. But sometimes, glimmers of the things that could be closer to the "normal" we dream of, and hope for. Our life goes like this at times, we just have … Continue reading Can I not just divide myself into several persons?
NB. This one was written but seemingly never posted... It's been a little while since I posted - major reasons for that: Agency causing friction between us and the landlord, landlord turns up confrontational, tell children to go upstairs (to the safe comfort of their rooms) - too late, damage done, complete and outright refusal... … Continue reading A quick update Jan 18
Hi everyone, I keep saying "I'll be more regular..." "things are settling" etc. etc. But the long and short of it is... since my last post I have been a woman on a mission with regards to a house purchase (and hopefully will have some news soon). And both my phone and laptop broke. AND … Continue reading Happy Easter + quick message
Hi everyone, Sorry to followers, and the people I follow. I have been absent here. Very. Very. Absent. A lot has been happening. I think I left you guys with the knowledge that our letting agency were being quite a pain. The Ombudsman is now involved and dealing with that. In the interim I have … Continue reading Catching up…
SOOOOOOO..... It's that day, the day that some dread and some really love! In our house, it's actually just "Wednesday". We do not celebrate it. Not because we have issues in our relationship. Not because we are party poopers. But because, I just don't get it... I mean, you show someone you love them by … Continue reading [Happy] Valentine’s Day
We chose to rent as opposed to mortgage, prior to adoption, as we weren't sure what the children's needs were going to be and whether we would need to move etc. But also because, although it would add financial pressure... it would take the stress out of problems "it's someone else's responsibility". Not to disrespect … Continue reading Ugh! Renting was supposed to be helpful!!!
It's hard to think that a child as young as 4 or 5 could be so ashamed of themselves (their actions, or even their identity) that they'd physcially harm themselves. But, it really does happen. And it really is hard to witness. I don't want to sit here and tell people how to deal with … Continue reading Parenting a self harming child
A very unusual thing happened this week... and I felt I needed to write about it. To have it documented in history. I got to actually relax, not for 5 minutes. Not with a child attached to me. Not trying to do my own thing whilst a child is getting hugged for over an hour... … Continue reading That doesn’t feel right…
A Pleasant Chaos 